1st Year
MONTH
7
1st Year – Month 7
Be Your Own Best Friend: Give Yourself a Pat on the Back
Remember how you felt just before your baby was born and during those first hectic months?
Now would be a good time to think about how your feelings as a parent have changed since that time.
Are you feeling more sure of yourself and relaxed about bringing up your baby? Are there still times that you feel unsure of yourself and guilty that you’re not being the perfect parent?
You know, there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We often expect too much from ourselves. It’s impossible to be patient, understanding, and loving all the time. We just try to do the best that we can.
Yet many parents feel guilty and discouraged if they don’t live up to their expectations of parenting. They have a whole list of “shoulds,” such as: “I should always put the baby’s needs ahead of mine. I should always put things away so the house looks neat.” These shoulds are impossible to live up to.
What are some of your shoulds? Make a list. Try to fill in the following sentences. Just write down any thoughts that come to mind:
- A good parent should:
- When I’m tired, and my baby is cranky, I should:
- As a parent, I should always:
Where did you learn your shoulds? You might want to think about where they are coming from. Are they coming from your own parents or your friends?
Don’t be too tough on yourself. Instead of putting yourself down with your list of shoulds, try to accept your feelings and realize it’s not easy to be all things to all people, even little babies. Remember, too, that no one’s perfect. Be a good friend to yourself.
What’s It Like to Be 7 Months Old?
How I Grow and Talk
- I creep on my stomach and may crawl.
- I balance myself and sit for a while with no support.
- I keep my legs straight when you put your hands under my arms and pull me up. I try to stand by myself. I may fuss because I don’t know how to sit down. Show me how to do it.
- Be careful not to lift me by the arms. My bones can still be easily dislocated. Lift me by putting your hands under my armpits.
- I feed myself foods I can pick up, but I’m pretty messy!
- I turn my eyes and head to see you when you come in the room. If you think I might have a hearing problem, call the doctor.
- I say several sounds such as ma, mi, da, di, and ba.
- I watch your face when you talk to me. I may even try to put my hand in your mouth to see where the sound is coming from. I’m a smart kid!
How I Respond
- I want to be included in all family activities.
- I like to see myself in the mirror.
- I get excited when I see a picture of a baby.
- I like to make things happen. I like to grab, shake, and bang things and put them in my mouth.
- I like toys that make noise such as bells, music boxes, and rattles.
How I Understand and Feel
- I can pay attention to things now and I spend lots of time studying things.
- I can tell when people are angry or happy by the way they look and talk.
- I can grab things and hold on to them, but have trouble letting loose. I may straighten my whole arm and fling things down because that’s what works.
- I may be afraid of strangers, so stay with me when they’re around.
- I feel strongly about what I want and don’t want to do.
- My sense of humor is starting to show. I feel playful, and I like to tease you. I may laugh if you pretend to eat from my spoon or when you do other silly things.
Some children do things earlier or later than described here. Most differences are normal. Focus on what your child can do and get excited about each new skill. If you notice that your child is lagging behind in one or more areas for several months, use this list to talk with your doctor about your child’s development.
Baby Shots Reminder
Baby shots, or immunizations, protect your infant against many serious diseases.
The shots are so much safer than the diseases. Vaccines work best when they are given at certain ages. Your child needs a series of shots. If you have missed shots, don’t worry. You can start now. Call your doctor or clinic. Many communities offer free immunizations. Check with your public health office.
Babies are scheduled for a series of shots that can be given anytime between 6 and 9 months old. This includes Hepatitis B, diphtheria, and flu, as well as polio. If you aren’t sure if your baby needs more shots now, call your doctor or clinic.
Games Babies Play
The Mirror: An Eyes and Hands Game
How to play: Stand in front of a mirror with your baby and point to their reflection. Using their name, say, “I see Brandon. Where is Brandon? ” Encourage them to point to themself in the mirror.
Still sitting in front of the mirror, do the same thing with objects. Pick them up one at a time and move them beside your baby’s head. Name the objects, telling your baby something about them such as, “This is a ball, and it is round.”
Then ask your baby, “Where is the ball?” and encourage them to point to the mirror.
Your baby may enjoy sitting in front of a wall mirror and playing with their toys.
Feeding Your Baby
Your baby will probably be eating:
- Breast milk and/or formula when hungry—about 30 ounces a day
- Infant cereal mixed with liquid— several tablespoons twice a day
- Vegetables, pureed—2 to 4 tablespoons daily (include green and yellow)
- Fruits, pureed—2 to 4 tablespoons daily
Give your baby new foods one at a time. Don’t force a new food. If your baby doesn’t like it, put it away and try again the next day. It may take seven to 10 tries before your baby starts to like a food.
If your baby is interested, let them try to hold their own bottle or spoon. Also offer finger foods, such as crackers and dry cereal, so they will try to pick them up. It may take a while, but that’s OK. They’re learning a very important skill.
Your baby will be messy when they are first learning how to feed themself. Try not to become overly concerned about neatness now. A large plastic tablecloth under your baby’s chair will make cleanup easier.
Check for the circle of safety when buying baby food. Do not buy jars that have the circle pushed up. Listen for a pop when you open the baby food jar. That will tell you that you have broken the vacuum seal, and it is safe to feed your baby.
Serve and feed your baby from a dish, not directly from the jar. Don’t put leftovers from the dish back in the jar. You can refrigerate the unused baby food in the jar for two to three days. After your baby begins to eat an entire jar in one meal, then you can feed them from the jar.
No sweet foods! Candy, sugar, sweetened cereal, sweet desserts (including baby desserts), fruit-flavored drinks, and soda pop are not good for your baby. These foods should not be fed to your baby because they will spoil their appetite for healthy food. These foods also are harmful to your baby’s teeth.
Do not add sugar, sweeteners, or salt to your baby’s food.
Have you thought about weaning? Experts on baby care and feeding want babies to continue to be breastfed until they are 1 year old. They believe breast milk gives the best nutrition a baby can get. If you are breastfeeding, try to keep it up.
Mom and Dad
Your baby needs lots of love and attention. It’s also important to find time to nurture yourself and your relationship with your partner.
Now that you are developing into loving and responsible parents and feeling more confident about parenting, find time for each other. Enjoy your hobbies, sports, reading, and other activities that energize you and reconnect you to each other. Healthy parents, who take time to keep themselves healthy, are just what children need.
Take Good Care of Your Back
When you pick up your baby, bend from your knees and kneel or squat, keeping your back as straight as possible.
- Hold onto your baby, and straighten up from the knee-bend or squat position.
- Make your knees do the work, not your back.
- Do not bend over from your waist.
Sun Safety
Baby Skin Is Delicate and Burns Easily
Babies need fresh air and light, but too much sun can be harmful. Researchers have found that severe sunburns in childhood can lead to greater risk of the most deadly form of skin cancer, malignant melanoma, later in life.
Here are some simple steps to help you and your baby enjoy the sun safely:
- Before 6 months keep your baby out of the sun. After 6 months, always put a sunscreen lotion with a 30 or higher sun protection factor (SPF) on your baby and yourself when you’ll be in the sun. Test a small area of your baby’s skin to check for a reaction before applying all over. Re-apply every two hours.
- Stay out of the sun from 10 am to 3 pm, when the sun’s rays are strongest.
- Keep your baby in the shade. If you use a stroller, keep the sun shade on.
- Put a hat on your baby, and dress them in lightweight clothes that cover their body. Dress like that yourself.
- If you or your baby gets sunburned, put cool, wet towels on the burns. If a fever or blisters develop, call the doctor.
Talk About Feelings
Your baby is learning about good and bad feelings. Help them by talking about emotions. Say, “You fell over and are crying. You feel bad. Let me help you up. Now, you’re feeling better.” Learning about our emotions takes a long time. The first steps begin right now.
Your child’s tears may be hard to take. It will pull at your heartstrings to see your little one feeling such pain. But tears are a sign of healthy emotional growth. Your baby is reacting the same way you would when you trip over a bump in the sidewalk, fall down, and get drenched in the rain — all on an empty stomach.
Tears can be good medicine — they help us relieve tension, reduce stress, and get us ready to bounce back to feeling better in a short period of time. Tears help us deal with bumps in the road.
Attachment & Stranger Shyness
One of the most important things that babies do is become attached to their parents and other important adults in their lives. You’ll know that your baby is getting attached when they start to cry when you leave. This does not mean that your baby is spoiled. It’s a sign of attachment. This will set the foundation for healthy relationships throughout their life.
Around 7 months of age, babies may start to act differently around the people they know and the people they don’t. Your baby will talk, coo, and laugh with the people they see every day. But when a stranger, perhaps even a grandparent, picks up your baby, they may be quiet or even scream.
This is normal. It’s a sign that your baby is picking up on the differences in people. Your baby is learning that not everyone is the same. They are likely to accept new people after they have spent some time with them and knows they can trust them.
You Are the Most Important Teacher
Researchers have found two types of play between parents and their children. One style is similar to a professor lecturing to a class. The other style is called “ping-pong” because it’s similar to a ping-pong ball going back and forth between parent and child.
Lecturing doesn’t help babies learn. “Ping-pong” is best.
To be a ping-pong-type teacher, do this: When your baby giggles, you giggle. When your baby hands a block to you, hand two blocks back to them. When you do something, your baby will react to what you do.
The best learners have adults who spend time playing with them.
Nutrition Facts
Healthy eating begins with the right information
Building Good Food Habits
Did you ever stop to think why you don’t like some foods? Most people like the foods they were given when they were young. If you give your baby a variety of nutritious foods now, they are more likely to eat foods that are good for them their whole life. What a wonderful gift to give them!
Children copy their parents, brothers, and sisters. If your baby sees their family eating healthy foods, they probably will, too.
Ways to help your baby develop good eating habits:
- Make meals happy and relaxed times.
- Feed them with the rest of the family.
- Feed them as much as they want, but don’t force them to eat more than they want.
Prevent choking. Do not give your baby small, firm, and slippery foods such as peanuts, raisins, whole grapes, hard candy, popcorn, raw carrots, or hot dogs cut into circles. Some people think it’s OK to cut foods into small circles for babies to eat, but this size of food can get stuck in their throats and choke them.
Temper and Frustration: Normal Growing Pains
As your baby gets around more on their own, life is more exciting. It is also scary and frustrating.
Temper and frustration begin to show. Your baby moves into another room to explore and satisfy their curiosity. They don’t see you, so they get scared and start to cry. If you leave the room, they begin to scream because they are frightened of being away from you. Your baby might drop a toy out of sight. They scream with anger because they can’t see it or get to it.
Temper and frustration are normal. Help your baby learn ways to deal with frustration. If your baby drops a toy, help them look for it. If you leave the room, tell your baby you will be back. Give them some extra cuddling during these bursts of independence.
Keeping Calm
When your baby is pulling leaves off your favorite plant one-by-one — or smearing cereal in their hair — it’s hard to stay calm.
If tempting things such as houseplants and wastebaskets are left in your baby’s reach, they will explore them. The easiest way to keep them out of trouble, and you relaxed, is to put “do-not-touch” things where they can’t see or reach them.
Babies do things that are upsetting to parents, but they don’t do these things on purpose or to annoy you.
When your baby bangs toys together, it’s because they like the noise. If it gets on your nerves, give them a quiet toy and take the noisy toys away.
Keep your baby safe. A baby can drown in 2 inches of water. Never leave your baby alone in or near a bathtub, toilet, pail of water, or pool — not even for a moment.
Remember, your baby is not doing anything to try to upset you. They’re busy learning about their world, and that learning can get messy and noisy. When you see things from your baby’s point of view, you will feel less stressed.
Are You Talking with Other Parents?
When you’re out walking or shopping, you will see other parents and their babies.
Stop and talk. Ask questions. It’s fun to compare notes.
Ask how the baby has changed in the last one to two weeks. What is the latest thing they are learning? What is the baby’s favorite time of day? What do they seem to enjoy the most?
You will have your own questions, too. Other parents will have their own tricks for soothing a crying baby or making feeding easier. Ask about them.
Other parents are like you. They have learned a lot — and they love to talk about their babies!
Reminders
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Credits: This newsletter was reviewed and updated in 2020 by YaeBin Kim and Dan Weigel (University of Nevada-Reno) and Anne Clarkson (Wisconsin-Madison Extension).